When kids say the dumbest things it's cute most of the time, but when adults do it can be very revealing, sometimes very hurtful.  Here is what I mean.....

Yesterday I was in a situation where weight loss was being discussed. It is no secret that my weight has always been a battle I have fought most of my life.  I lose it, gain it, and I lose it again. Let me start by saying my decision to change anything in my life, has to with me. Let me explain.

Yesterday in my conversation about weight loss someone said, they could now come to my wedding, I would look so pretty in my dress. That prompted someone else to ask when I was getting married. Well you all know that I am not getting married anytime soon. So I politely replied, "I'm not getting married."  That was then followed by the comment, "well when you do get skinny, you can get married."

I just turned and looked at that person and let them know that my marital status has nothing to do with weight.

On my way home,  I was reflecting back on this conversation. Some people would have been hurt or offended, I was saddened. I was saddened by the fact that some actually thinks that acceptance is based on one's appearance. I was also saddened by the fact that someone would think my change would be based on what people think about me.

If there are ever changes made in my life, it is because I chose to make them. I learned a long time ago the God looks at the heart of man not his outwardly appearance. So I have always tried to remember that is what is important, the size of my heart not the size of my jeans. I could be the hottest woman on the planet and the worst person in the world all at the same time. I can also be the biggest and least attractive person and change the world all at the same time.

I am amazed that appearance bears more weight than character.

If you want to change something in your life, change because you want to, not because someone else thinks you should. If you want to lose weight, do for yourself, not because someone else thinks that you should. If you want to get new furniture, do it because you want to not because your friend doesn't like.

No matter how much you change, if you are not changing to make yourself happy, then the change will never make you happy.

Please don't ever let people's ignorance get you down. Rise up and remember who you are! Remember its the size of your heart, not the size of your jeans, that matters!